Sunday, August 12, 2012

Are you an Unglued Momma?




First of all, my goodness gracious it's been a LONG time since I've written on my blog. As usual, no real excuses - just life getting in the way! And how am I doing on my "word for the year"? Well, my word is disciplined and I'm guessing you figured out that since I haven't been writing I haven't been very disciplined and you'd be correct. But I am working on it.

I am in my last week of an online Bible study I Used To Be So Organized. Let me tell you it's an awesome study. It's not just about getting your home life organized but more importantly it's about getting your spiritual life organized first before moving on to the physical things. Melissa Taylor is leading the study and all I can say is it has been an amazing.

In fact, I've enjoyed it so much and gained so much from it that I've already signed up for the next online study. This one is Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst. As a mom of two teenage boys I tend to come unglued quite often. It doesn't take much for me to blow up and I don't like myself when that happens. I know that is not how God wants me to react. So, I'm ready to do something about those explosions. I'm ready to seek God in my moments of falling apart instead of trying to handle my emotions myself.

When my boys were young I did not do good job of committing to reading my Bible and having daily devotions. It's something I've been working on over the years and I'm finally getting better at it. I wish I had had a Bible that I could use that was geared toward moms who were seeking to put Gid first in their lives. I really believe I would have been more consistent in my reading and studying if that was available to me.

So, my friends, that is what I want to give you! An opportunity to get yourself and your emotions put back together! One lucky person will win a copy of Unglued and a copy of The Busy Mom's Bible. Here is how you can enter. Leave a comment here telling me about an unglued moment in your life. You can also have two additional entries by posting on Facebook about the giveaway and tweeting about it. If you do either of those please leave a comment letting me know. I'll randomly choose a winner from the comments.

The contest will close at midnight Friday, 8/17/2012. Best of luck!



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62 comments:

Everyday Dealings said...

How awesome Beth that you are going to be blessing someone else! Also, anyone that would like to join us in this study please sign up at melissataylor.org

Lynda said...

Well, just yesterday morning was definitely 'unglued' sooo much on my plate, a very busy week ahead, & not enough time for anything!! I lost it venting on & on to my husband he says (as always does when this happens) "you are 1 person, you give too much of yourself & try to help everyone, learn to say NO! & not feel obligated to do so much, as far as our house & our 'stuff' it will get done" The words don't really help me change my thought pattern, the getting it all out does sort of.. but most of all, giving it all over to The Lord, attending services yesterday helped tremendously.. I gain new insight, perspective & remember that of course -- I am not in control - HE IS!

Lynda said...

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The Kurjian Family said...

I have had way too many moments of coming unglued - usually on my kids :( And I don't like when that happens. I am already signed up for the next study & am excited to get started on it!
I will post on my facebook but don't have twitter

Anonymous said...

I have had so many momments of comming unglued the littlest thing will set me off. like if you ask me twenty questions. or if you talk down to me. or you scream at me . those are the little things that set me off that make me come unglued im signed up for unglued and im looking foward to doing the study

Kristen Barkdull said...

I usually go unglued over the little things. And it is usually directed at my boyfriend. I come unglued when I an the only one that cleans or when something does not get put away. I am very much looking forward to this study. Those are just a few examples. I posted a link to this blog on both Facebook and Twitter.

Julie H. said...

Being a sportsmama, you know ALL TOO WELL how we mama's don't take to kindly of that "too serious" coach that doesn't know how to control his tongue and unleashes on our child. Let's just say I recently experienced one of these moments and I came unglued. That is why I am signed up for the study! :)

Julie H said...

Just tweeted and facebooked your blog to share the giveaway! :)

Melinda said...

My biggest unglued moment was my husband telling me he was being let go on staff of a church last year because of finances with no warning. This was a week before Christmas. God helped get our life glued back together and has blessed!

Melinda said...

My biggest unglued moment was my husband telling me he was being let go on staff of a church last year because of finances with no warning. This was a week before Christmas. God helped get our life glued back together and has blessed!

Karen Barkley said...

Oh my can I ever relate to you. My husband and I have 4 sons-19,16,13,& 8. Plus we have two male dogs and two male cats. I tell my husband that I am estrogen floating in a pool of testosterone. The most recent time I came unglued was last Wednesday walking into our church meal. My oldest was texting while I was talking to him and then just keep on walking right past me. The lack of respect tipped me over. I began raising my voice, when he reminded me we were in church and someone might here. To which I replied I don't care. God then remindrd me of the upcoming "Unglued" Bible Study. Not one of my finer moments.

Julie Sanchez said...

Hi Beth

I love that blog name "Living in the Land of Testosterone" I am a mom of 2 boys, plus my husband and even our dog is male. They just don't get it. Although I am much better with coming unglued. I definitely have my moments. I work form home which is good and bad. trying to juggle and balance and be everything to everyone sure gets tiring and can make me "rage" as my teenage son calls it. I am looking forward to the unglued study very much. I absolutely loved "I used to be so organized" Organization really makes me feel so much more at peace!!!! :)

Carrie said...

I become so "unglued" every time I hear my two little kids bicker back and forth. I know the oldest loves to antagonize his little sister, and she just loves to scream, very loudly, until she gets what she wants. It happens all too often in this household and I have not come up with a good solution. I pray all too often for God's grace and patience to help me deal with these circumstances.

Terra said...

I am so excited about this Unglued study! I am a mother of 4 of a blended family. The youngest is starting middle school, Im also a Pastors wife, and work outside the home. To say I become unglued is probably an understatment. I so want to honor the Lord with my emotions, with my time, with my life. I cant wait to grow during this study. I shared this on facebook and twitter. I am going to be starting an
in person" study along with the online study with the ladies in my church. Im hoping doing it like this, even ladies that cant make it to the study can still feel a part with us doing it with so many others online too. I can't wait. Thanks for the oppertunity for the give-a-way.

Carrie said...

Put your blog on my Facebook. Thanks.

Anonymous said...

"Unglued", wow, who can't relate, especially as women, wives, mothers, caretakers, encouragers...and the list goes on. I struggle pesently with comunicating clearly with my spouse. I think I'm being totally clear, and he derives my message totally different than how I believe I delivered it. We are fairly newly married (1 1/2 years), and it seems that with the pressures of health issues, job loss, and financial stress...I feel unglued, and truth be told, I am sure it shows in my tone of voice and general frustration of what life deals out. I call it life unravelling in a most "unglued" like way.

janet said...

I came unglued yesterday when after spending 15-20 minutes straightening the mess my family made..they come home from their little outing & BAM! their "things" are, again, all over the place :-(

lesliep said...

I usually become unglued on my husband. It's do silly he tries to help and I just nit pick that it's not 'right' (the way I would do it) even though we both get the same result. I really need to let God take control of my emotions so I can quit trying to control everything!!
Not proud mama

Kathleen said...

I am so looking forward to this study and have already told my regular Bible study group we are doing this one next. It is not so much about becoming 'unglued' in a raging way anymore, but I need to learn how to express my feelings rather than stuffing them, especially with my adult children. I find that although I don't usually blow, I leak with comments here and there. I want to honor God in all my communications.

Gena said...

Unglued is a very nice way of saying it sometimes. Life is so stressful and I first need to step back and reassess the situation, but usually I have my little melt down and then wish I had handled it differently after its to late. I am looking forward to this Bible study, and I'm sure my family will be thankful I'm doing it also. lol

Anonymous said...

Have lost an important relationship by being unglued. Really looking forward to this book

Charlotte (Chargaile) said...

I am sure I have come unglued many times, however, the one that stands out the most to me was during the time I was “trying” to get off hormone theraphy. (Does that count?), anyway, this was during a time that I was not walking with the Lord as closely as I am now. My husband made a remark to me about not being dressed on time and I REALLY came unglued. Words (bad words) started flying out of my mouth, nasty words, cutting words, it was like I couldn’t stop them, I said words that I hate to hear other people say. Then the throwing started, not big items, things like a brush, shoes, clothes, etc. Not a pretty scene at all. It happened so fast and guess what?? Oh yes, it hurt the person that I love the most, my husband.

He immediately called the drug store and had the hormone replacement prescription filled. I got off easy because my sweet husband blamed the “raging bull” on the lack of theraphy. But was it really?

I am going to post on FB and on Twitter about your giveaway.

msmanners said...

My youngest son is 13 and FILLED with hyperactive energy. It becomes challenging to get him to focus on tasks. I can come unglued all too easily by the time I am telling him the 6th or 7th time to complete a task. I pray that God will fill me with patience and wisdome on how to help my son channel with fabulous energy to become more productive.

Rosanne said...

I have had many moments. One I remember was I had a work Christmas party to go to. My husband was not feeling too good and I took him to the doctors. I had green beans on the stove cooking and my son was supposed to take care of them. Instead, he went upstais and skyped with his girlfriend. Eventually he remembered them but it was too late. When I came home the greenbeans were drained but they were mushy. I had no time to go to the store to get more. I could not use them. I was became totally unglued.

lahagins said...

I become unglued when I have to deal with people who think that I cannot see thru their facade and see what is actually going on underneath and see their ulterior motives.

lahagins said...

I become unglued when I have to deal with people who think that I cannot see thru their facade and see what is actually going on underneath and see their ulterior motives.

Margaret said...

My youngest daughter when she was 15 informed her girlfriend's mother that she was going to leave home and move to a city. This mother called me and I became unglued. It was a terrible time in our family, but with God's love and guidance we have made it through to the other side.

Kelly Galambus said...

I become unglued just about every morning while rushing around to get everyone off to school!

TAMMY E said...

My first thought was “which time”? I seem to lose it more frequently than I’d like to think. One time in particular, my daughter spilled a drink. I completely lost it and threw a tantrum so to speak. I definitely needed a time out and should have thought of that first, but unfortunately didn’t. After it was over, I felt so horrible. She was in tears and I as soon as fury left, guilt took its place. The mess was cleaned up and the floor was fine. However, the mess I had made in my daughter’s heart was not as easy to clean up. I still don’t know why I exploded. It was an accident. Even though that’s been several years, I still remember it like it was yesterday. I just hope my daughter doesn’t think about it. I did ask for forgiveness from my daughter, but I have a hard time forgiving myself. So, needless to say, I need this study. I am really looking forward to it and anxious to see what God has in store for me.

Courtney said...

I am a single mom of twin toddler boys. All of last week was a major unglued moment. I had horrible migraines, my depression and anxiety were bothering me and I lost it. I yelled and screamed and felt terrible. It is one thing to lose your cool at home but I also did it at a MOPS playgroup at the duck pond. It wasn't pretty. I need this study. I have signed up for the online study and I was going to purchase my book this week.

BeLive4YourLife said...

Oh, Goodness how many which one, where to start. I have become very defensive of critical stuff from people I think this study can be used for all. I am so excited.

Courtney said...

Tweeted :
https://twitter.com/C_Ludwig/status/235398942311997441

TEllison said...

Sheesh, Unglued is a word I feel is stamped on my forehead! I have 3 wonderful kids 4,6, and 9. My daughter us in the tween stage and puberty is an eye opener. This combined with the endless energy of two young boys makes me feel like im falling apart sometimes.

Courtney said...

and now on my facebook page

Courtney said...

oops wrong link for the tweet - it is this one https://twitter.com/C_Ludwig/status/235398942311997441

so 3 entries total - the other comment with a twitter link can be deleted - sorry

TEllison said...

I shared the post on Facebook as well :)

LRF said...

I came unglued today! I took my two very busy boys to the store & library today by myself. this may not seem like a big deal but for me it is a huge deal! I was a wreck by the time we got home. Then I received a text from my husband letting me know that some missionaries who are on furlough are free Wednesday night-tomorrow! I knew they would come over at least 1x during their stay but to know only a day in advance when I just had a total meltdown moment over my children's behavior. I am so tired right now I could cry. I wish I didn't lose it over my kids. They are 3 & 1/2& 5 yrs. old. I feel like they fight constantly. I have tried every type of discipline available.I have also praised & used charts & read books & reminded them of the right thing to do & say but they just fight & scream at each other...I plead with God to help me stay sane & calm & I admit when I have done wrong to my kids so I am trying to be a good example but man, some days are ROUGH! I totally knew the book Unglued was for me as soon as I heard about it. I would love to win a copy & I would pray the Lord would use the book to enlighten me. I also need a good book on raising young boys & getting them to obey & play with each other w/o constant fighting. If anyone has a suggestion on that please let me know. I am so tired...& praise be it's almost nap time for the youngest! Thanks for the giveaway & I will also post on FB for my 2nd entry!

Beth D said...

Been feeling unglued for the last month. 3 kids at home 9, 7, 1...just sold our house...as long as we can get the bathroom finished (we do the work) and it passes all inspections by the private inspector the buyer hired...trying to help husband finish the office they just moved into, doin small stuff that I can...installing electrical outlets and organizing office so they can work out of it even tho it isnt finished, everytime I walk into our house...that is falling apart during all this and is a total mess, I feel unglued. Trying so hard to just remember that kids need a sane mom and I cant do everything...then fight that guilt....yep, unglued right now...even this rambling post probably seems unglued!! I need to take a break to remember that this is all GOOD stress!!!! thank God for that!!! :)

Anonymous said...

I came unglued in the the library. My three girls were little, one was just starting to be homeschooled. I was so hungry for fellowship with like-minded people that I went to a meeting of homeschooling parents it was suppose to be at the park, I packed lunch and all then it was too windy so they moved it to the library.
I had one crawling in diapers and one toddling around, I so wanted to listen and become a part of this group as I foolishly thought it would fill the hole in my life. Well of course my kids were not cooperating as I thought they should. I thought even though they were tiny they should sit and listen intently. NOT.
My middle daughter went down an aisle to look at books which were in bookcases. I though oh, okay I can finally listen. The next thing I know all the bookcases are falling over in the domino formation. My daughter had tried to climb to get a book and they all were falling straight for the homeschooling group. I freaked. Grabbed my daughter off the bookcase all red faced. I asked her what she was doing and she innocently responded getting a book mom. I lost it. I ranted and raved about how I needed friends, how I was tired of being alone all day with 3 kids and on and on only to realize each person in the homeschool group was staring at me. I came unglued. I proceed to collect my girls and I left with my head in held in shame, lonelier than I’ve ever been. I have not been back to that library since.
M. Waters

Anonymous said...

My unglued moment: last night. My 14 yr old is becoming, well a teenager in the mouth area. She was doing so well up to now. Last night we were picking at her and she began yelling and I become "unglued". I so need this study. I am signed up and waiting to get the book when I am more financially able. I am sharing on FB now. Thank you Jaime tschamp@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Have come unglued so many times. One still vivid though it has been years ago - Son lost his unbrella on the way home. So regret that.

Wendy said...

There are so very many unglued moments. Sad. True. Recently, my family and I traveled a million miles (not really, but it felt like it) away to a family wedding. With 6 of us in the car, we were quite cramped and quite tired of each other pretty quickly! My two youngest -girls 6 and 4 were in rare form and talked, argued, screamed and drove us all nuts the who trip home. I won't describe my reaction, but lets just say it was not at all attractive and was really loud! Yes, "Unglued" would be a good investment in to me!!

jackie said...

i hold lots of stuff in - am the peacekeeper, the person who holds things together. my son was in a bad accident 6 years ago (spinal cord injury, jaws of life,...). i was calm in the hospital when we didn't know if he would live or die (he lived and i was probably in shock to be so quiet). i was calm during his surgery,...about 3 days later i realized that i had misplaced my DATE BOOK that was as close to a secular bible as you could have (everything was written in it!). we looked everywhere - and that finally started the flood gates opening up.

Amy Brunton-Williams said...

I have had a lot on my plate the last 2 months. Last week I came unglued - on my dad. Yes my dad. Everything had come full circle and he had pushed me and I lost it on him. I have not lost it on anyone and have actually been accused of trying to be too strong sometimes. But in that moment I was not. My dad was in shock. He had never seen me fall apart before. We did talk about it later but it did change us both.

Andrea Tilley said...

I have had many “not so proud moments”, but one that often comes to mind is my 10th wedding anniversary. My husband and I had planned an evening get away for the big night, we arranged childcare for the children and went on our merry way to the small little resort like place. My husband is a huge sports fan and was listening to sports radio on the way up when we heard that Mike Leach (the current Texas Tech football coach) was going to be fired. His mood quickly went sour and we were trying to stay calm. I am a southern girl, who LOVES her tea and had not had a tea the entire trip. I was anxious to get to this place so I could get a glass of tea. When we finally arrive, I jump out of the car and realize that my aunt flo came early, right then. I run into the resort, use the restroom and then go to the restaurant for tea. They said they did not open till 5:00pm and I straight up threw a tantrum right there. It was terrible. My sweet husband offered to drive all the was back to town to get some but it just felt like the entire anniversary was ruined. We still enjoyed being away from home but it was not the 10 year anniversary either of us expected. We now laugh about it (and it is kinda funny), but at that moment I thought I was going to go insane.

Anita said...

I came to your blog from Melissa Taylor's. The Land of Testosterone--that's where I live also with 3 sons. I now have a lovely daughter-in-law, so there is now someone on "my side". Coming unglued happens for me when things are not done "my way", which to me means the "right way". When I do this, it usually results in saying something hurtful rather than letting them make the choices and decisions and me being supportive. It is hard to give up control.

Kara said...

I have an almost three year old and one year old twins. Last Thursday I took them all to our local children's museum. I took the twins out to crawl around and of course all three set out in different directions. I lost the oldest. She was in the bathroom washing her hands. One ofth twins was eating chalk. The other twin got herself stuck under the one exhibit. I love tkingh placed but I was ready to poll my hair out a I couldn't control the three of them. Then a I placed them all to play w some trucks my older says I like playing w dumb f.... I asked her to repeat it and she said it again. As I stood there bonding where she learned that language I started to laugh. The moms around me were looking at m like yes she has definitely lost it. I realized my daughter was saying dump truck!

Teresa Gierhart said...

Wow one unglued moment - as the mom of 2 teenage daughters and wife of a husband with depression and anxiety - there are too many moments. Looking forward to digging into Lysa's book and learning how to not be unglued !

Debbie C said...

I have two daughters....10 and 12 years old. My hubby recently fractured his arm (he's a carpenter). His surgery, the closing on our home and our move into an apartment ALL happened on the SAME day!! lol :o) Yes, I came unglued. Did I mention we just found out I have a blood clot in my leg? If not for God's grace, unglued would be a permanent state for me.......

jena*rae said...

Looking forward to learning to keep calm cool and collected!

jena*rae said...

Posted on Facebook too.

Charlotte said...

Okay which event do I choose? :P So my sister in law and her family came to live with us for about 6 months during a transition time in their lives. This became very challenging because we come from "two separate worlds." let's just say we had several unglued moments where we didn't see eye to eye and my words were not kind in the least.

Charlotte said...

And I also shared you on pinterest and facebook.

Adria said...

Over the past 14 years of our marriage my husband and I have been trying to have children. We have been through so many heartaches during this time including ten miscarriages. I have lost count at the number of times I have been unglued throughout this journey. The loss of control can be unbearable. We started the adoption process and our newborn daughter is due to arrive on Oct. 17th thanks to our wonderful birth mommy. This process hasn't been easy and has required more faith than I ever thought I was capable of. I come unglued when fear sets in--how are we ever going to afford this? What if she changes her mind? How are we going to afford to live on one income so I can be a stay at home mommy? The fear and anxiety can be overwhelming but my husband and I keep reminding ourselves that God is in control and we will have our miracle in our arms.

brindilou said...

my husband and i had a mutually unglued moment the other night. i am a busy grad student and for the last couple years i've been in another state at school more than i've been home with him. because of my schedule he does most of the cleaning (and does a better job than i would normally do anyway). i've been home on a break for a couple months now, and the other night when he was cleaning i asked him to make a small change in what he was doing. he thought i was telling him how to clean and came unglued on me, which led to me becoming unglued in response. we were able to calmly talk about it the next day, but it would have been nice if i could have kept my cool in the first place and avoided the whole argument!

Dee said...

This is probably a repeat, but my worst coming unglued is when we are running late for school or anywhere else. I got that from my Dad... I am sure. I have been praying about it and getting better, but I definitely need some pointers. I always regret having a bad morning when my son gets out of the car to go to school. I am always trying to make up for it somehow. I just want to stop doing it period. I especially hate it when I get frustrated on Sunday mornings, because my husband waits until the last minute to get ready and I need to be there early to teach. But I am learning to deal with it. It's just him, and I am the one that needs to get over it. So there you go!

Alli Dailey said...

I am a new mom and my husband and I own our own business. I take our son to work with me and some days when the work demand is great and my husband says he's tired (ha!) I really get "unglued!" before having a baby I was so layed back, not so much now! I know when I am loosing my grip that is when I really need to pray.

christina groves said...

whenever I talk to step d... I can either stuff and then talk about it later, like a crazy person or sometimes her unglued moment fules mine and we fire each other up. not pretty..

Missynoodle said...

I must say that as I lay here reading all of these posts about people coming "unglued" it brings tears to my eyes. I have been feeling such guilt over my short patience as of late. It is so comforting to know that I am not alone and that moments of coming "unglued" happens to other parents out there too. Thank you for helping me to rest a bit easier tonight and to look forward to a better day tomorrow. :)

meyana said...

I felt horrible yesterday...Do you ever have those moments where you are having thoughts you would never want to say out loud, let alone admit you were thinking them? Yesterday i woke up & everything went downhill from there. I wished i did not have kids...I know, HORRIBLE...right?!?! I believe we all have those days...we just have to be able to talk about them & not worry about being judged..its not easy, thats for sure..but it feels good to be honest.

meyana said...

i also posted about the giveaway on facebook=)

Beth W. said...

WE have a winner. If you are following the comments our winner is Ms Manners! Congratulations! I'm posting an update blog post a little later tonight!!